Updated: Dec 3, 2021
We all have slow days, off days, days we feel really tired or uninspired. And it's absolutely normal. Just breathe, accept what is, let go of what was, have faith in what will be and then...make a comeback.
Reminder: Sometimes in life we lose our way
Maybe we aren't living our full potential, or we are just stuck in the rut of stagnation and don't seem to be able to make any real progress no matter what we do. Divorce, health issues, addiction, the loss of a loved one, financial difficulties, depression, stress, feeling locked into something so big we just don't know how to get out of it, or any one of the other conflicts or crises life can put us in. But sometimes we just have to lose our way to find out what we really want, because we often ignore our needs until we are lost.
Remember: It doesn't matter how many times you get knocked down. The only thing that matters is how many times you get up.
"We screw up, we lose our way. Even the best of us have our off days. But we still move forward." - Meredith Grey
Tip #1 - Making a comeback plan
Face what went wrong
Write down wherever things went wrong, so they are laid out in front of you in black-and-white. Be honest about what really happened instead of making excuses. Sometimes it's harder to face a situation that was outside your control than when it was something you caused by your own procrastination or bad decisions. Don't blame yourself for things that weren't in your control, and learn to accept the bouts of bad luck and to work against them, instead of using them as excuses for your present situation.
Ask yourself what you can do about what went wrong and learn from it
Even if it was just a bad luck, there are ways to cushion the loss the start. What changes can you make in your life that will reduce the chance of this happening again? Reevaluate your relationships and see if there are any toxic friendships or relationships that are keeping you from being the person you want to be. If that's the case, you may need to cut ties.
Decide your priorities, choose your goals and see if you need to reconsider your goal as well
Though this may seem like an extreme idea, before you make your comeback plan, it may help your comeback plan, it may help to reconsider the direction you want your life to follow. Change the approach: your comeback does not need to go in the same direction. Once you're informed about what went wrong and why, it's time to start mapping out your comeback. Your plans can change as you go along, you'll meet obstacles and also run into unexpected runs of good luck and opportunities no matter what direction you take. If you know what you want and understand more or less how to get it, then it's easier to start making short term goals to get where you're going.
"The bigger the setback, the greater the comeback." – Jessica Collins
Tip #2 - Give up your bad habits
You have real reasons for any bad habits you have. Understanding what needs and desires the bad habits fulfill can be the key to trading them in for good habits.
Every bad habit fulfills real needs, so your task is figuring out ways to fulfill those needs without hurting yourself or anyone else, in ways that help you achieve your goals rather than hold you back.
Tip #3 - Build your self-confidence
Of course, it's easy to be down on yourself when you have to rebuild your whole life, but you have to remember the things you love about yourself, not just the ones you need to work on. Though it's important to recognise your flaws and to work on the ones you can work on, it's also important to remember all of the reasons you love yourself, and all the things that make you awesome.
Make a list of all your positive traits and the things you excel in. Work to make that list longer and longer, through your words and deeds.
Tip #4 - Hold your head up high
Refuse to believe anyone who thinks you can't make a comeback. You can! You are the only one who can create your comeback. You succeeded before, so you have proof that you can succeed. The more honest with yourself you are, the easier it is to choose the best direction. The best direction is the one that will give you joy in the journey, when real passion fuels your effort and the process is so much fun you'd do it even if you weren't working toward a goal.
Remember: Don't be too hard on yourself
Though it's important to be accountable, it's equally important to treat yourself with care and forgiveness. Everyone makes mistakes, and you shouldn't think you're a failure or a loser just because you went down the wrong path. Treat yourself with sympathy, kindness, and compassion, and you'll see that it'll be much easier to move forward. If you're down on yourself, it'll be nearly impossible to feel confident and positive, and this will keep you from achieving your goals.
"Don't be too hard on yourself. There are plenty of people willing to do that for you. Love yourself and be proud of everything that you do. Even mistakes mean you're trying." - Susan Gale